Why FIGHTING Isn’t The Answer!

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2 min readFeb 23, 2022

It’s what the philosopher Alan Watts referred to as the Backwards Law ⬇️:

🌟 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐰𝐞 𝐟𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐚𝐧 𝐨𝐮𝐭𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐡𝐚𝐩𝐩𝐞𝐧, 𝐩𝐚𝐫𝐚𝐝𝐨𝐱𝐢𝐜𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐥𝐞𝐬𝐬 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞𝐥𝐲 𝐰𝐞 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐚𝐭𝐭𝐚𝐢𝐧 𝐢𝐭. 🌟

Take the example of a person who falls into a lake and scrambles to reach the water’s surface. 💦

The more they frantically fight to reach the surface, the more their body sinks underwater. 🌊

Did you ever notice that? 👀

But when the person stops fighting, when they stop resisting…their body naturally floats up to the surface. No effort required! 💧

Or let me give another example: A person says “𝘐 𝘸𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘣𝘦 𝘩𝘢𝘱𝘱𝘺.” ☹️

Sounds pretty reasonable, right? 👍

But the problem is when you say this, you also implicitly say to yourself: “𝘐 𝘢𝘮 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘩𝘢𝘱𝘱𝘺”, which in turn makes you EVEN LESS happy. 😲

Unintentionally, you create an even greater distance from the surface of the water that you call happiness! 🤯

As Mark Manson puts it: “…𝘱𝘶𝘳𝘴𝘶𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘰𝘯𝘭𝘺 𝘳𝘦𝘪𝘯𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘤𝘦𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘧𝘢𝘤𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘭𝘢𝘤𝘬 𝘪𝘵 𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘧𝘪𝘳𝘴𝘵 𝘱𝘭𝘢𝘤𝘦.” 🗣️

It’s quite a paradox! 😅

So, what does this Backwards Law mean for us?

📌 That the more we desire to be rich the poorer we feel.

📌 That the more we desire to be happy the sadder we feel.

📌 That the more we desire things to go exactly the way we want them to go the more helpless we feel.

This means that even the most privileged of individuals in the world can still feel like victims. 😓

This means that even in the best of circumstances a person can still feel it to be the end of the world. 😨

🌟 𝐓𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐦𝐞𝐚𝐧𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐧 𝐢𝐟 𝐰𝐞 𝐜𝐡𝐚𝐧𝐠𝐞 𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐞𝐧𝐯𝐢𝐫𝐨𝐧𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭, 𝐢𝐭 𝐝𝐨𝐞𝐬𝐧’𝐭 𝐦𝐚𝐤𝐞 𝐦𝐮𝐜𝐡 𝐝𝐢𝐟𝐟𝐞𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞 𝐢𝐟 𝐰𝐞’𝐫𝐞 𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐜𝐚𝐫𝐫𝐲𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐚 𝐬𝐜𝐚𝐫𝐜𝐢𝐭𝐲 𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐝𝐬𝐞𝐭. 🌟

Because wherever You go, there You are. 🙌

So, what’s the solution? 🤔

It’s one I’ve mentioned many times before, and it’s one I still have to remind myself of from time to time: Acceptance. ❤️

Let go. Stop resisting. Give up the fight. 🙌

Because it’s only with more resisting that the problem you’re fighting will continue to persist. 🙌

In other words, stop trying to get it…and you’ll have it. 🙂

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