Why We Hold Beliefs TIGHT!

Don's Golden Nuggets
2 min readMay 27, 2021

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โ€œ๐’€๐‘ถ๐‘ผโ€™๐‘น๐‘ฌ ๐‘พ๐‘น๐‘ถ๐‘ต๐‘ฎ! ๐‘ท๐‘ฌ๐‘น๐‘ฐ๐‘ถ๐‘ซ!โ€ ๐Ÿคฌ

One thing 2 people can easily get caught up in is an argument. And Iโ€™m not talking about an argument where both sides share their perspectives in a respectful and open manner.

(This is the Internet after all! ๐Ÿ˜‰)

I mean an argument where it becomes less about exchanging ideas and more about wanting to be โ€œrightโ€. It becomes less about truth-seeking and more about egoic dominance over the other person.

Why do we do this? Iโ€™ll give you one reason.

๐ŸŒŸ The ideas we share feel like part of our identity. So when our ideas our challenged it feels like our identity is challenged. ๐ŸŒŸ

Being โ€œwrongโ€ feels uncomfortable because when weโ€™re so attached to our beliefs a argument can feel more like a personal attack, rather than a simple disagreement about our beliefs. ๐Ÿ˜จ

Say youโ€™re an advocate for the environment, and you wholeheartedly believe that what youโ€™re doing is helping it. ๐ŸŒฑ

But then say someone comes along who disagrees with you. Say they present a new perspective, one which argues the very things youโ€™re doing is actually hurting the environment more than it is helping it. ๐Ÿ˜ฒ

But instead of hearing their points, you jump on the defense! You tune out the things they are saying. โ€œThatโ€™s ridiculous! Iโ€™ve been doing this for years! They just donโ€™t know what theyโ€™re talking about!โ€ ๐Ÿ—ฃ๏ธ

Whether they had a valid point or not didnโ€™t matter. You shut yourself off from hearing what they had to say. Because it was more comfortable sticking with what you WANTED to believe rather than what might ACTUALLY be true. โŒ

Ignorance can indeed be bliss. ๐Ÿ™Œ

๐ŸŒŸ Being open to being โ€œwrongโ€ can feel uncomfortable. But it may also lead to learning something new. ๐ŸŒŸ

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